Why we scream on roller coasters

It’s a total lack of trust

So here’s what happened, during my birthday week celebration my parents went on their first roller coaster ride. After the ride my dad said “I thought I was gonna fall, but after the first dip I didn’t fall and I knew I would be okay.”

Fast forward to tonight, I just watched “nobody’s fool” with my sisters and it hit me. (Tipsy mind working). We scream because we don’t trust that we won’t fall or we think that somewhere long the ride something will go wrong and we won’t be able to recover from the damage.

Sort of like when people get hurt and then decide to get back out there. You know you want to move on (get on that roller coaster), you know you’ve pre-vetted the guy or girl (checked to make sure you’re truly strapped in) but you still scream when the ride goes down on turns a corner too fast or goes backwards at top speed. You get scared when things start to go wrong, a.k.a your first disagreement/argument.

Here’a how “Nobody’s Fool” ties in. Danica (Tika Sumpter) is heartbroken over her ex-fiance dumping her and moving on. Even though Danica’s been hurt she still wants to find love, she wants someone who matches everything on her “list.” (Lists don’t work ladies/gents). Charlie (the guy she’s never met but has been dating for a year) seems like the perfect guy. He checks everything off her list while Frank (Omari Chadwick) is someone she could never see herself associated with. Of course, predictable we know who she ends up with.

However, during the movie Danica “harmlessly” flirted with Frank while she was dating Charlie. (She didn’t want to admit that she had a thing for Frank). As she gets to know more about Frank (who she actually sees regularly) she becomes blinded by his flaws and imperfections (things that aren’t on her list). But, he’s great in bed so she keeps him around until she finally meets Charlie. Danica drops Frank like hot potatoes to be with the guy who matches everything on her “list”. Finds out, Charlie isn’t the guy for her but she was so stuck on that list that she couldn’t see Frank for what he was.

Danica’s list was her safety net or in this case “pre-vetting” process. Frank is clearly the roller coaster, he takes turns with her that feel unexpected and because it doesn’t fit her “plan” for her life she tries to fall back.

What am I getting at? Trust yourself to make the right decision for YOU. Let go and enjoy the twist and turns of your partner, it builds character. I am not saying to stay with an asshole or jerk or disrespectful person. But don’t dismiss someone simply because they don’t fit in your box.

Lost & Found Review

Don’t you fucking dare claim you care about me

When you know damn well

That if a random bitch gave you attention

You’d be deep inside her

Don’t you dare act like I mean something to you

When you would never follow through

Trying to act like I’m special when we’re alone

But in public you can barely spare me a look

No fuck you

I’m tired of you trying to play with my emotions

You shallow bastard

Ain’t got nothing going except for your fucking looks

And your intelligent ass brain

Treat me with respect and disinterest in public

But you wanna go for a ride when we alone

No bitch


Fuck you and please

Stay clear

The Prayer

Father God, Jesus Christ

My strength, my provider, my savior, my everything

Jesus! I come to you at this moment with a heavy heart

God I just don’t understand….. I do but I don’t

Why are your children suffering so much?

We seem to have it worse than those who don’t know you

Left and right we are surrounded by pain

Cancer, pneumonia, the flu, suicide

Financial troubles, emotional, mental and all

God your children need you

We’re constantly under attack and we need relief

Father God your children need you

These babies are getting snatched from under their parents

Kidnappings, human trafficking, jail time, the grave

Our hearts are heavy

But God we believe in your word

We believe in your power

We know we must suffer for the road that we choose

But God…..

We need you to step in

We’re overcome with worry and grief and pain

We know you’ll take care of us

But we don’t know how to be patient

Teach us how

Father please

Hear your children’ cries

Father please speak into our lives

Father please

Our backs are against the wall

Surround us with your presence

Deliver your children

Father we pray to you

Please make a way

I messed up

I saw her when she walked in

On the arms of another man

Smiling in his face and looking happy

And it killed me

Knowing that her eyes

Will never again light up for me

And it hurts even more

Seeing that the current joy of her heart

Was once my best friend