Can I be honest? I don’t know how to guide you on how to handle rejection. But, I know that what I tell myself motivates me to move on. The key is to move on, move forward, move past the hurt.
It sucks to be rejected, especially if you have low self-esteem. And there’s a lot that affects low self-esteem but that’s a topic for another time.
You question yourself. What did I do wrong? What’s wrong with me? Am I not good enough? I am not pretty enough? Should I straighten my hair? Should I wear tighter clothes? Should I work out more? Should I start listening to this artist? What should I change about myself so he or she can like me?
These are questions we all ask. Whether we say out loud or in mind, those questions are real.
You know how they always say, actions speak louder than words? Well, words have a more lasting impact than actions. If you’re a child of God you know the power of words, the power of speaking things into existence. I live by that, so here’s what I do.
While my mind is trying to make me think that I’m not good enough, I’m declaring that I am more than enough. While I’m online shopping trying to “update” my closet to be more likable, I am declaring that I am worth it. While drowning my sorrows and hurt and pain and disappointment in alcohol, my heart is screaming that I deserve someone good.
You got turned down/ghosted BECAUSE THEY WEREN’T READY FOR YOU. They could have broken you, they could have made your life miserable. Again, I don’t know for sure but I always say, a rejection is a confirmation from God that he wasn’t for me.
Someone better is coming your way. Cry, kick and then dust yourself off. Shake your shoulders, take a deep breath, take a good look at yourself. Look yourself in the mirror and say it with confidence, better is coming. Ladies, put your lipstick on. Fellas, put on your best shoes. Strut, better is coming.
Better is coming!