How I met my boyfriend

It was a Sunday night in late November, early December, about 10 p.m. when I first saw him. I don’t remember what I was wearing but I was definitely not dressed to my best potential. However I recall, he was wearing dark grey sweatpants with a red hoodie and a hat … Now that I think about it, I think I had on sweatpants and a hat too. He caught my eye from the start even though I was talking on and off with another guy.

We sort of got to know each other through our environment and around February, I texted my sister and my cousin saying “I think I have a crush on this guy.” Never did I imagine that he would be remotely attracted to me. Not trying to say that I’m not something but I honestly thought that I was out of his league.

This is when I started to think that maybe he liked me. One night around 8 o’clock, I think this was late March, we stood outside talking (in the cold). The vibe was right, our conversation was nice, light and easy.  It was a bunch of random topics but somehow we made them all connect. (I’m smiling right now just thinking about it). The second time was in April after I came back from my vacation. I jokingly said “I know you like looking at me, it’s because you missed me isn’t it?” (Cocky much lol). But he mumbled something underneath his breath that sounded a lot like “yeah maybe a little”.

Crazy thing is even with all that, I was still wasn’t sure that he liked liked me.

Fast forward to the end of April, he asked me out!!!! What went through my mind were the following, is he drunk? is this a joke? is this real? am I dreaming?  He was nervous but yet he “shot his shot”.  His words went as followed: “I like you, I think we would have fun together, will you go out with me?” Of course I said yes.

Unfortunately with our schedules, we haven’t had our official first date yet. But every time we spend time together, I get to know him a little better and I’m glad I didn’t let my doubts stop me from saying yes. He makes me laugh, he pays attention, he’s straight with me (if I mess up, he’ll tell me) and I appreciate that.

Relationships aren’t easy and they require effort on both ends. And when you care about someone and they reciprocate your feelings; you realize that through the good, the bad, the ugly you’ll stick by them because there’s no one else you’d rather be with.


P.S. For those wondering what happened with the other guy that I was on and off with, I told him that I wanted to put my full attention on someone else and he accepted. No drama, no fuss.

The Secret – Part 1

To attracting a woman is simple.

It’s not about how good you look or how fine you smell, though that does help.  In reality, every woman wants the same thing: to be appreciated.

Appreciated in the sense that: you value her opinion, you respect her views, you see beyond her body. You listen and follow through. 

I had a guy take me on a date to the gun range. Mind you this was our first date and probably the best first date I’ve been on.

And here’s why: let me first just say that I am not a gun fanatic. I couldn’t tell you the difference between a Glock 19 or a Smith and Wesson. However, I have always wanted to go the range and I told him so during one of our many conversations.

Honestly, I thought I was just going to watch him shoot a few rounds but I got to participate! Even though I was scared (and jumped at the sound of about every gunshot) he still let/made me take a couple shots. He showed how to position myself, how to hold the gun and trusted me to listen to him and follow his instructions so much that he never allowed me to pick up the gun without it being loaded. (he also knows me well enough to know that I would have probably chickened out if he hadn’t).

The moral of the story is, pay attention to the conversations you have with the people you’re attracted to. They can inspire great dates, big smiles and awesome memories.

Though I was in his world, I felt safe and comfortable. I got to be a part of something outside of me, without losing myself. That’s the goal, to be two different individuals together.

Part 2: will focus on values and respect.