He was a father A husband A lover A friend A cousin An uncle A brother A son A person He was loved by someone Someone was hoping he’d make it home safe Someone prayed for him consistently He mattered to someone He was important to someone And yet Here we are again In this endless cycle Caused by your hate Your envy Your FEAR … Continue reading He was human
Dear Black Men, I’m sorry That you feel pressured to defy stereotypes That you feel it’s weak to cry or show emotions That you feel worthless because you don’t make “enough” money That you feel that the weight of the world is on your shouldersThat you’re told that speaking your mind…. speaking your truth is wrong That you’re used by racist to feed their inner fearsThat your strength … Continue reading Dear Black Men
It’s after midnight and I’ve just finished an episode of NCIS where McGee finally proposes to Delilah. Of course, my emotional self tears up a little because it’s love and it’s meant to be. And it got me thinking because this is a question I’ve been analyzing for months now. Why do people get married? Backstory: between December and January two of my very close … Continue reading Marriage
A dreaded question for both parties involved. The women (who is usually the one asking) doesn’t want to feel stupid so she’ll ask. The men don’t usually want to answer that question because a) they don’t know the answer/what they want b) they don’t want to hurt your feelings by being honest. Someone had come to me recently and had asked “how did you know … Continue reading What are we?
It was a Sunday night in late November, early December, about 10 p.m. when I first saw him. I don’t remember what I was wearing but I was definitely not dressed to my best potential. However I recall, he was wearing dark grey sweatpants with a red hoodie and a hat … Now that I think about it, I think I had on sweatpants and … Continue reading How I met my boyfriend
It’s real, it doesn’t discriminate: whether you have all the money in the world or you’re broke, no matter your color. Unless you personally go through it, it’s hard to understand depression. It brings forth the hard truth that materialistic things don’t matter. Once upon a time, I thought and felt like I didn’t matter. I went through the motions but I had this constant … Continue reading Depression
So I’ve been single for about 3 years now and honestly it’s been on purpose. Much as it pains me to admit it, my parents were right I was jumping from relationship to relationship. The issue was, I didn’t know who I was. With every relationship I was trying to fit this mold of who my partner thought I was or wanted me to be. … Continue reading Journey to Love
Respect and value. I guess they go hand-in-hand, you will respect someone you value. But you can also respect someone without them having value in your life (that’s not what this is about). Value is when someone sees beyond what the rest world sees, they see you: who you are on the inside. For example: a sheltered person may see someone who has tattoos or … Continue reading The Secret – Part 2
To attracting a woman is simple. It’s not about how good you look or how fine you smell, though that does help. In reality, every woman wants the same thing: to be appreciated. Appreciated in the sense that: you value her opinion, you respect her views, you see beyond her body. You listen and follow through. I had a guy take me on a date … Continue reading The Secret – Part 1
Dating is the art of getting to know someone better, someone who you are considering committing yourself to or have decided to commit yourself to. Being in a relationship is a commitment and comes with a title. Think of it as stages that sort of intertwine. There’s the “talking” stage where you’re kind of getting a feel for the person. You’re interested but not sure … Continue reading Dating vs. Being in a Relationship
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