To attracting a woman is simple.

It’s not about how good you look or how fine you smell, though that does help.  In reality, every woman wants the same thing: to be appreciated.

Appreciated in the sense that: you value her opinion, you respect her views, you see beyond her body. You listen and follow through. 

I had a guy take me on a date to the gun range. Mind you this was our first date and probably the best first date I’ve been on.

And here’s why: let me first just say that I am not a gun fanatic. I couldn’t tell you the difference between a Glock 19 or a Smith and Wesson. However, I have always wanted to go the range and I told him so during one of our many conversations.

Honestly, I thought I was just going to watch him shoot a few rounds but I got to participate! Even though I was scared (and jumped at the sound of about every gunshot) he still let/made me take a couple shots. He showed how to position myself, how to hold the gun and trusted me to listen to him and follow his instructions so much that he never allowed me to pick up the gun without it being loaded. (he also knows me well enough to know that I would have probably chickened out if he hadn’t).

The moral of the story is, pay attention to the conversations you have with the people you’re attracted to. They can inspire great dates, big smiles and awesome memories.

Though I was in his world, I felt safe and comfortable. I got to be a part of something outside of me, without losing myself. That’s the goal, to be two different individuals together.

Part 2: will focus on values and respect.